“Be successful.” This is the mantra of our time, drilled into us from a young age. But a clinical psychologist points out a dangerous flaw in this cultural script: it often comes at the expense of happiness. We’ve been taught to be “successful, not happy,” and this mindset is a primary source of the modern stress epidemic.
This value system leads us to believe that happiness is a byproduct of money and achievement. So we chase these external markers relentlessly, often sacrificing our well-being in the process. We get stuck in a “whirlpool of stress,” wondering why our success doesn’t feel as good as we thought it would.
The psychologist explains that this is because stress is a physiological poison. The anxiety and pressure of the chase degrade our physical health, causing pain, digestive problems, and sleep loss. It’s impossible to feel truly happy when your body is in a constant state of distress.
To break this mantra, you need to consciously prioritize well-being. This means implementing strategies that reduce the physiological load of stress. It includes setting boundaries at work, confiding in loved ones, taking moments to rest and reset during the day, and adopting a mindset that is less reactive to criticism and negativity. It’s about redefining success to include peace and health.
